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Quite recently, I had a falling out with my boyfriend.  I’m 22 years old, so heartbreak has been around more than a few times.  When he strikes again, I’m sure to cancel my plans for the evening, buy some chocolate and a cheap bottle of wine.  And together, we eat and drink and philosophize what it means to love someone.  He is such a cynic about it all, but then I unwrap one of those Dove dark chocolates and hope is restored, not just from the uplifting sweet taste but from the words that are stamped on the inside of the foil – inspirational words about Love.

The most recent chocolate I ate and unwrapped suggested that I “Get swept away by Love,” which, in the sniffles and hiccups of my sobbing, seemed to be a bad joke by the housemaids of the world.  Even Cinderella couldn’t turn that one around.

Brooms and waves and occasionally a winning baseball team, those are the things that sweep.  Not love.   For the objects at the receiving end of the sweeping – it never ends good.  Dirt from a filthy floor ends up in a dustpan or a swimmer caught in a riptide ends up god-knows-where or the losing team ends up defeated.  In my current crisis of the heart, that was exactly how I was feeling about love.  That being said, I don’t want to think someone who is loved is meant to find the same kind of end.  So thank you for trying to make me feel better, Dove Chocolate, but I’ll do all I can to remain UN-swept up by Love.

I think everyone has to have a favorite Shakespeare quote, even if they don’t know anything about Shakespeare.   In our college’s library there is a plaque that hangs on the wall with the heading “Quoting Shakespeare,” and on it are all of the idioms Shakespeare has introduced into the English language.   There are phrases like “tongue-tied,”  “in a pickle” “too much of a good thing” and even “without rhyme or reason” which most people would not attribute to the prolific bard.  My favorite Shakespearean quote, however, is what most people would consider typical of Shakespeare.  It comes from Act II of King Lear, spoken by Edmund, the antagonist of the play. He says:

This is the excellent foppery of the world, that, when we are sick in fortune, often the surfeit of our own behaviour, we make guilty of our disasters the sun, the moon, and the stars; as if we were villains by necessity, fools by heavenly compulsion, knaves, thieves, and treachers by spherical predominance, drunkards, liars, and adulterers by an enforced obedience of planetary influence; and all that we are evil in, by a divine thrusting on: an admirable evasion of whore-master man, to lay his goatish disposition to the charge of a star!

It is long and lofty, but it is so true.  Rather than take the blame for poor choices which affect our lives, we blame the Universe.  Because we didn’t get that promotion, it was just bad luck.  Because we stopped dating that special someone, it was just bad timing.  Or because we failed that test, life hates me. But no – most likely we didn’t put in the extra effort on the job or devote enough time to our boyfriend or spend enough time studying in the library.  I’d like to start reclaiming responsibility, and the first step to do that is with our words.   

Saying what we mean and meaning what we say, I think, is one way we can start being accountable again.  So I’ll be dissecting some of those common clichés to get at the heart of what language can do for the mind and the soul…and hopefully avoid guilting the moon into carrying my problems around with its own too.

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